Really, Love is the answer.
When it comes to relationships,
Love is the foundation.
And while it may seem obvious, and it may be cliche,
If and when we're able to access and feel into the love, amidst the conflict, amidst the pain, amidst the discord and disconnect, then everything will be a lot more likely to turn out okay.
We ask you to take a moment right now, while you're staring at your phone or sitting in front of your computer,
and with whatever cynicism or self consciousness that's there,
Place your hand on your chest and feel your heart.
Bring into your mind something or someone or some place you love.
And maybe, feel a smile spread across your face or a softness settle into your body.
And for the rest of the day, whatever happens, you'll always have your hand and your chest with you.
You can't forget to bring them along.
And let this love which you're feeling right now,
Let it move you to stop and notice the flowers, the particular quality of light through the trees.
Explore all the ways you can express your love today, even if just for yourself.
As we coast into August, riding waves of heat, we notice a subtle shift in the air. There’s a sense that something is changing, almost as though summer is coming to an end. Yes, we still have some of the hottest moments of the year ahead of us, but there’s something different about this time of year, it has its own quality. It's Late-Summer, a fifth season in the paradigm of Chinese Medicine.
We’re supporting the emergence of a bigger community of people who live with reverence and love and in beautiful and joyful relationships.
Relationships are fundamentally about connection and exchange.
About give and take - offering and receiving.
What’s most profound and fascinating to me is that attitude makes all the difference.
his is the third in a series exploring Self-Regulation: Read Part 1 and Part 2 on the blog.
How to Find Calm Amidst Wind & Fire of Emotions
When it comes to pyschoemotional disregulation, aka “losing your sh*t”, there are a number of different possible patterns at play. For a practitioner, identifying the pattern is essential for treatment. I’ve found that understanding what’s going on can also be useful for many of the people I work with. So I’m going to share a little about some of the common patterns that are involved in emotional turmoil.
We all know what it’s like to get overwhelmed. We’re familiar with stress and anxiety. And, if we’re at all human, we’ve “lost it” at some point and either said (or screamed) something we wish we hadn’t. Many of us know what our own warning signs are, and might even have a sense of what we can do to reset or get grounded. And yet… it still happens.
Ultimately, a leap of faith is required at some point to test the waters. We have to take a risk and trust that we can handle what unfolds and navigate the outcomes of being vulnerability. Under most circumstances, we’re pleasantly surprised. Vulnerability and openness is disarming. Some people may be befuddled and uncomfortable and not know how to relate. Awkwardness might show its face. But most of the time, people open up in response to openness, they soften in response to softness, and they connect to invitation for connection…
The Dance of Discomfort and Vulnerability
This one is tricky. Even when you’ve done the internal work, even when you intellectually know that no harm can come to you from opening up and sharing, there is a certain amount of discomfort associated with bearing your heart to another…
There's a way to live life with intimacy, with direct contact with our experiences. Living in this way brings a richness to life. We also gain a deep knowing of the beauty of being. Intimacy penetrates the veils that come between us and reality and liberates us from much friction in our lives. But living with such openness can be difficult. We must feel everything more deeply, including our pain.
I haven't perfected this way of living, but I’m constantly striving. And I've caught many a glimpse into what's possible. It's an ongoing practice that requires presence and openness. And openness means vulnerability…